After the cocksure mystery-man approach of “Alex A.” (AKA “Mr Right”), we wondered whether the heart-on-sleeve approach might be more effective. In this second flyer we recently spotted in the East Village, “Luis” (who’s just “looking for someone to talk to”) details how his girlfriend of seven years “decided that she couldn’t deal with me and my financial struggle”; “[I]f you have a heart, you can give me a call or text,” reads the flyer. “Don’t be cruel I am really vulnerable right now.” We spoke to Luis to check in on whether the community at large was playing nice.
How old are you, and whereabouts do you live?
I tried meetup.com, but it’s kind of hard because you have to consistently meet people and build up the level of the relationship. I might go to a meet-up group, and then it’s not really a meet-up group but a promotion for a party. Or go to one meet-up group but then I can’t consistently come because of my work schedule. Stuff like that.
No. I wasn’t only looking for a relationship, I was looking to build a social network—friends, you know. I haven’t tried online dating. What I do for work, when I’m not doing my on-the-books job, is selling short stories on the street. My target audience is female so I was trying to sell to some females and some people thought I was something called a “pick-up artist.” Then somebody approached me and asked me, “Are you here for the boot camp? I thought you were here to see the Master.” And then they introduced me to this guy who was a real-life Hitch. He comes on shows to teach people [how to pick up women]. But I don’t have that money, and at the time I wasn’t sure if he could do what he said he could do. But we hit it off and I got cool with him. We met again in Union Square and he demonstrated himself picking up women. And I was blown away. But still I wasn’t going to spend money and he recommended me to read some books. But I haven’t recovered from the last relationship. I haven’t been interacting with the opposite sex in that way. I haven’t got there yet.
I had a few, and as time goes on, more and more. I think the better I make the flyer, the more people have contacted me. Now I have artwork, I added some color, better wording. I threw in some of that. Changing it up as it goes. I have more and more people trying to hit me up on Facebook, and more and more people trying to email me. I’m getting text messages every now and then.
Anybody who’s positive; who’s not gonna be all negative. I feel like I can’t ask for much because everybody has their flaws. You know, I’m just looking for a social network. It’d be good to actually meet people and go out and get a social life.
Everybody is just very flaky and finicky. And when I was in this relationship, it was all going southward. And I was at a point when I was pursuing entertainment, and I’m not anymore. Now I lost touch with everybody who was in struggling artist-ville. And things always happen in New York—it’s kinda transient. Somebody’s friends with you and then you don’t see them for a while. And you don’t know what happened until years later.
Yeah. Not specifically. But I learnt a lot from the previous relationship I was in. And it would be great to see who’s out there. It’d be good to have someone different from the last one. I can’t even blame her though because she wanted stability and I couldn’t offer that.